Breaking Free from Emotional and Mental Manipulation by Your Ex: A Guide for SEOs

If you know she is a manipulator, why are you staying? It's simple: block her number and access to your social media. Do not contact her or answer any communication from her. Go “no contact” and stay that way.

Understanding Emotional and Mental Manipulation

I feel for you. I am in a similar situation but can't seem to leave. If you want your life to be messed up forever, continue trying to stay with her. If you want a better life, keep away and move on. The obvious step is to go “no contact” and cut the ties so they have no more access to and thus can’t manipulate you. The less obvious steps that many miss are understanding how they exploit you and recognizing the cycles of manipulation.

Recognizing the Exploitation

The way they exploit you the most is through false hopes and breadcrumbs. Because they know how you feel. They know exactly that you’re still emotionally attached and still want them back. They’ll keep you on a pedestal, expecting a message from them every minute of the day. As long as they have the reassurance of you feeling this way, and you make them feel comfortable with disrespecting you, they won't stop their manipulation. It will only get worse the longer you allow them to do so.

Taking Action Against Manipulation

Stop giving them the benefit of the doubt. Stop letting them use you for attention, validation, sex, money, or whatever. Stop tolerating minimal effort from their side while you overextend yourself and give them the maximum effort. Stop giving them the boyfriend/girlfriend treatment while they treat you like a random stranger. Start respecting yourself instead. Balance this dynamic out and get your power back by completely dumping them and walking away towards something better.

Accepting the End of a Relationship

Accept that whatever you had is over. This is a tough one, but it's the truth. The sooner you accept it, the sooner you can bounce back from this breakup and come out of it as a better person. If you have no children or financial ties, stand up to him and not allow him to manipulate you. Don't give him an audience. Ever. This is one clear way to stop the manipulation. If you stay calm, live your best life, and don't add to the drama, he will eventually get bored and go away. If you play into his manipulation, this will only delay the inevitable and you will never be available to see someone right in front of you that could be the best thing that ever happened to you.

Final Thoughts

Good luck to you and God bless you. Embrace the new chapter in your life and focus on your well-being. Remember, your ex should have no control over you emotionally or mentally now that they are no longer your partner. Stand tall and live your best life free from their influence.