Embracing Self-Companionship: The Joy of Being Your Own Best Friend
To be your own best friend, one is to see and appreciate the worth and value of oneself, just as one would from the kindness of others. A true friend is non-judgmental, offering support and encouragement, even when things don't go as planned. This friendship with self can be incredibly enriching, as it brings a sense of peace and worthiness.
PEACEFUL - Being at Peace with Yourself
The feeling of peace and completeness that comes from being content with who you are is profound. Years ago, I made a conscious effort to stop saying negative things to myself, like 'Oh you idiot!,' and instead addressed myself with the same kindness I might show a friend or loved one. This shift has been incredibly rewarding.
As a child, my mother ensured my physical needs were met, but she (and my father to a lesser extent) were critical and distant. My rule of thumb was that things were good when I didn't hear any criticism. This approach has helped me psychologically, but the key is to find a balance.
Be Your Own Best Friend
It's important to recognize that being your own best friend means loving, supporting, and caring for yourself as others would, while maintaining a balanced perspective. Balancing your strengths and weaknesses can enhance your overall well-being and lead to a more fulfilling life.
It feels good to be your own company, enjoying your thoughts and observations. However, at times, everyone craves companionship. Self-companionship is about being assured in yourself and feeling complete without relying on others for validation.
Listen to Your Inner Voice
When you need someone to listen, I'm here for you. I promise to listen to all of your dramas and problems, even if it means hearing the same things multiple times. I may not always remember, so don't be surprised if I need to hear it again.
I will try to help you change your situation, encouraging you to take the active role. We will enjoy food together, indulge in creative endeavors, and share our love for movies. Our conversations will be honest, and sometimes disagreements might occur. That's okay, as we both have the maturity to apologize when we're wrong.
Conclusion
Being your own best friend isn't about being alone all the time. It's about learning to enjoy your own company and feeling assured in your worth. If you're struggling with self-acceptance, consider these tips and remember that self-love is about embracing your flaws and strengths.
What do you think about the idea of being your own best friend? Share your thoughts and suggestions in the comments.