Intelligence Beyond Language: Understanding True Success in Relationships
When we speak of intelligence, we often think of the ability to use language effectively. From a linguistic standpoint, language can only depict an unfocused shadow of reality. Intelligence, therefore, cannot be confined to simply using language, especially memorizing or reciting it. Introspection and personal wisdom come from hidden processes in the human mind that go beyond what language can convey.
Understanding Intelligence Through Hidden Human Processes
Active yet invisible, the human mind processes a vast amount of sensory input, such as sight, hearing, touch, taste, and smell, all of which are not available in any intellectual form. For instance, the color red, the joy or sorrow of a child, the fragrance of a flower – these aspects are often lost in the rigidity of language and academic knowledge. True intelligence, on the other hand, thrives in these silent, hidden processes that are always present in the human mind.
Example: A farmer or a fisherman might possess a depth of understanding about the universe that transcends the intellectual knowledge imparted by academic institutions. Similarly, the down-to-earth men and women, skilled in a variety of practical tasks, might be more adept at learning new dance steps than those with advanced academic qualifications.
Education vs. Intelligence: Misconceptions and Realities
Being educated and being intelligent are not synonymous. Many highly educated individuals may lack emotional intelligence or practical skills. In fact, the clumsy or less intelligent individuals, such as politicians, lawyers, or social workers, might be intellectually deficient in everyday tasks. Likewise, I witnessed how intellectual women often prioritize academic pursuits over the more natural, silent processes that contribute to emotional and physical well-being.
Example: A woman who valued intellectual pursuits over her physical needs might face challenges in intimate relationships, as she may have missed the opportunity to experience pleasure naturally and enjoyably. Another woman with advanced degrees faced the "natural wall" in family planning due to a delayed realization of her actual desires.
The Role of Intelligence in Family Life
Intelligence in this context should not be restricted to the ability to use language or academic knowledge. True intelligence also encompasses the ability to care for and nurture others. This includes women who, through their own means, became fluent in four languages, gave birth to six children, and developed businesses. The role of a mother and nurturer is profound, and it is through these silent, practical skills that true intelligence is displayed.
Example: The distinction between true intelligence and academic intelligence is illustrated by the ways in which my mother and mother-in-law embraced their roles as mothers and nurturers. Their intelligence lay in their ability to raise children and contribute to their well-being, rather than in their academic achievements.
The Evolution of Human Intelligence and Its Impact on Modern Professions
Over thousands of years, human intelligence has evolved to support various professions such as philosophy, art, politics, and medicine. Today, we witness the development of technologies like large-span bridges, engines, cars, aeroplanes, and computers, which are products of advanced human intelligence. These professionals are not less intelligent; instead, they have harnessed the silent intelligence of the human mind to create tangible products and services.
The essence of true intelligence lies in its ability to solve practical problems and create meaningful products that improve our daily lives. This is a far cry from the merely symbolic or academic knowledge that some individuals may hold onto due to intellectual illusions.
Conclusion
In conclusion, intelligence is not just about language and academic knowledge. It is about the ability to navigate the world, understand it in a practical and meaningful way, and nurture our most basic human needs. Whether it is through silent, hidden processes or through tangible actions, true success in a relationship lies in aligning our emotional, intellectual, and practical intelligence to meet our core needs and desires.