Navigating Verbal Abuse from a 30-Year-Old Daughter: A Mother’s Narrative

I just came across your post and I#39;m sitting here in tears, no, to tell you the truth. I#39;m actually sobbing my eyes out reading everyone else#39;s posts because I#39;m going through the same thing with my middle child—she is my daughter and she is 30 years old. She has been abusing me verbally for over five years now, and she has moved to Texas while I remain in Ohio. She graduated from the police academy and is due to have her graduation ceremony soon. I have had two strokes, which has left me on disability, but I told her I can only come if I can stay about 10 days at her house because the train tickets to get there and back are the cheapest, and they keep me there for 10 days.

Initial Agreement and Subsequent Unyielding Stance

A week ago, she was fine with my plan to travel by train. I had even purchased my coming-home ticket. I have yet to buy the one to Texas, but now she has changed her stance, saying I#39;ll be an inconvenience and I was stupid for not getting a plane ticket, which would have been cheaper and would have kept me only a couple of days. She even wants my ex-husband to pin the badge on her, which I find particularly distressing.

Constant Verbal Abuse and Emotional Strain

My daughter has been verbally abusive for five years now, and every word she utters is filled with malice and nastiness. I feel so hurt and crushed by her and her brother. My relationship with my oldest daughter is wonderful—she is 34 years old and our bond is like that of best friends. But my two youngest are just mean and nasty, and it hurts so much to look at them. Every stroke leaves me even more vulnerable, and yet, I still want to be there for my daughter on her graduation day, even though I might not survive a future accident. I just hope the last time I see her is not a couple of years ago, but at her graduation ceremony.

Deteriorating Communication and Emotional Turmoil

Now, my daughter won#39;t answer my text messages. It feels like she doesn#39;t care about me at all despite everything I have done for her. Even my best friend went off and said, Oh my God, does she not realize what you have been through just to get the one train ticket and what you will go through just to get there by train? I feel lost, conflicted, and ready to cut all ties with my daughter. It is killing me inside, but I am also angry at myself for not doing more to support her emotional well-being.

Seeking Support and Advice

How do I deal with a verbally abusive 30-year-old daughter? What kind of emotional support do I need? I am seeking guidance on navigating this complex and painful situation. Does anyone else have experience with a child of this age who is mean and nasty? How do I ensure my emotional well-being and my safety as I go through this ordeal?

Conclusion: A Call for Understanding and Support

This situation is incredibly difficult, and I am reaching out to the community for support. If anyone has advice, experiences, or stories to share, please do. It is important to remember that we do not have to go through this alone. Our community can provide invaluable support and understanding in navigating such a challenging situation.