Understanding a Narcissist Ex's Behavior When You’re Doing No Contact
When you choose to do no contact with a narcissistic ex, you might wonder if they understand your actions. This article explores the reasons behind a narcissist's behavior during no contact and how you can navigate this phase for your well-being.
Why Narcissists Want You to Do No Contact
Narcissists often want their ex-partners to do no contact for several reasons. First, it gives them the time and space they need to plot their next moves. By enforcing a no contact period, you deny them the opportunity to control and manipulate you. Instead, they might try to establish a new relationship with someone else, using the time to build a new connection. This can make the process of reengaging him or her even more enjoyable for them, as they feel that their endgame is within reach. During this period, they tend to be unusually calm and composed, which allows them to think clearly about their strategies and the things that brought them happiness in the past.
Do Narcissists Know About No Contact?
Yes, a narcissist is likely aware that you have initiated a no contact period. They have likely experienced no contact before from other exes and understand the game they are playing. However, their understanding of your intentions may vary based on their personality and past experiences. While they may be aware that you are no longer providing them with 'supply,' their need for control might prevent them from fully comprehending why you are doing so. For some narcissists, this period of no contact can trigger feelings of deprivation, leading them to focus on their desire to 'own' you and maintain access to your so-called 'supply.'
What to Expect During No Contact
If you are maintaining a strict no contact policy, you should not have to worry about your narcissist ex anymore. This period can be a valuable opportunity for you to heal and move on. Instead of focusing on trying to win their affection back, invest your energy in cultivating meaningful relationships with people who support and care for you. As you distance yourself from the toxic relationship, you will likely notice a significant improvement in your well-being and self-esteem.
What Does a Narcissist Think When You Do No Contact?
A narcissist will likely not understand why you are doing no contact with them. They will see this as an impulsive and disrespectful move that requires them to 'teach you a lesson.' Despite their bloated egos, they may recognize that you are setting boundaries and maintaining your emotional health. However, their response is more likely to be manipulative. They might try to reestablish contact by love bombing you temporarily, to create a false sense of security before ghosting you again and teaching you a lesson. This cycle can be emotionally draining, so it's important to stay strong and focus on your recovery.
By understanding the behavior of a narcissist during a no contact period, you can better prepare yourself to navigate this challenging phase. Remember to prioritize your health and well-being, and seek support from friends and professionals to help you through this difficult time.