Understanding the Differences Between Overt and Covert Narcissists
Introduction
Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a complex and often intriguing psychological condition. Within NPD, there exist two distinct subtypes: overt and covert narcissists. While both share core characteristics of NPD, their manifestations are far from identical. This article explores the differences between overt and covert narcissists, drawing from personal accounts and expert insights.Lurking Behind the Mask
In her book, "Lurking Behind the Mask", author Veronica Harvin shares her firsthand experience of living with a covert narcissist for over five decades. Her account offers a compelling perspective on how these individuals can deceive and manipulate others through charm and a facade of kindness.Covert Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Narcissism)
Covert narcissistic personality disorder, also referred to as vulnerable narcissism, is a subtype of NPD. While overt and covert narcissists share some common traits, such as an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for admiration, their expressions of these traits are vastly different.The Characteristics of Overt Narcissists
Overt narcissists are the more well-known and easily recognizable type of narcissist. They are characterized by their grandiosity, arrogance, and constant need for validation and admiration. They are attention-seeking and domineering. They frequently boast and seek to highlight their superiority. They can be charming and assertive, yet often manipulate through aggression and exploitative behavior. Their entitlement is blatant and they expect special treatment.The Hidden Facade of Covert Narcissists
Covert narcissists, on the other hand, are much more subtle in their expressions of narcissism. They often wear a cloak of deception, presenting themselves as shy, introverted, or overly sensitive. They can appear meek and vulnerable, yet harbor a sense of superiority. Passive-aggression, chronic envy, and feelings of inadequacy are common traits. Their sense of self-entitlement is often expressed through resentment rather than overt actions. Avoiding the limelight while still desiring recognition and validation.Key Differences Between Overt and Covert NPD
Here are some distinct differences between overt and covert narcissists:Expression of Grandiosity
Overt NPD:Openly boastful, attention-seeking, and assertive in asserting their superiority.
Covert NPD:Subtle, indirect, and often expressed through a sense of misunderstandings or underappreciation.
Interaction Style
Overt NPD:Charismatic, assertive, and often domineering. Enjoy being in control and in the spotlight.
Covert NPD:Passive-aggressive, withdrawn, and can appear self-effacing. Use guilt or silent treatment to manipulate others.
Emotional Experience
Overt NPD:Less likely to show vulnerability and more prone to anger or rage when feeling disrespected.
Covert NPD:More likely to suppress anger and react through passive-aggressive behavior or withdrawal.