Why Covert Narcissists Still Want You Back After Ditching You

When a covert narcissist ends a relationship and still wants your time and attention, it signifies that they are only interested in retaining a connection without any strings attached. This behavior is a clear indication that they are distancing themselves to reclaim a sense of superiority and control. They now pretend to be your friend but offer very little value. Any expectations you held about their intentions should be discarded.

Instructions like asking you to pay a random 300 dollar gas bill serve to reveal their true intentions. Once the gas bill is paid, you may notice a hiatus in their calls, leaving you to witness their manipulative nature. Covert narcissists employ this tactic because it reinforces their sense of power and importance. They are suckers for seeing you react emotionally and remain a key source of narcissistic supply, validating their need for attention and affirmation.

Understanding the Discard and Hoovering Cycle

Covert narcissists often leave a relationship but still seek to re-engage you to manipulate your emotions and validate their superiority. This pattern of abandonment, followed by aggressive re-connection is termed 'hoovering'. They keep you off balance and ensure that you remain a source of emotional supply, sustaining their unhealthy self-image.

The True Motives Behind Their Requests

Their requests to re-engage are not driven by genuine feelings of remorse or a desire to be with you for the right reasons. Instead, they are attempting to gauge whether you are foolish enough to return to the relationship or if you are willing to take on the role of a side-whore or backup supply in their harem. This is not about missing you but about maintaining a strategic position of control and validation.

Covert narcissists need the emotional supply from you to boost their ego. This is why they continue to seek connections even when they have left. The goal is to maintain a distorted sense of self-worth and to ensure that they remain the center of your universe, no matter how manipulative their actions may be.

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This series of articles delves deeper into the behaviors and mindsets of those manipulated by covert narcissists, providing insights into recognizing and dealing with such relationships.