Why Do Some Identify as Queer Rather Than Lesbian?
The identification of queer versus lesbian can be a matter of personal expression, community, and a desire for broader inclusion and acceptance within the LGBTQ spectrum. Understanding these differences is crucial for fostering a supportive environment for all individuals.
The Journey to Identifying as Queer
Before transitioning, many individuals, such as myself, identified as a lesbian for various reasons. Primarily, it defined me as a woman who was sexually attracted to women, which aligned with the gender identity I presented at the time. Additionally, it offered a social circle where the likelihood of finding potential romantic partners increased, and with it, a sense of camaraderie and acceptance. The phrase, borrowed from my friend Belle, who used to say, 'In the old days if you met another Lesbian you slept with her,' underscores the close-knit nature of communities that identified within this label.
During my time in the 1970s, the term queer was laden with negative stereotypes and stigma, comparable to being labeled as 'sick,' 'perverted,' or 'an abomination.' These derogatory terms reflected a broader societal perspective that labeled anyone who defied traditional gender roles as outside the norm. Personally, the term queer described my feelings, but the discomfort with saying it reflected the broader social and personal challenges I faced.
My Current Perspective: Embracing the Term Queer
Over the years, I have transitioned not only in my physical appearance but also in my self-identification, embracing the term queer. Today, I identify as a gay man who honors the past, the brave predecessors, and the courage of the Stonewall community that broke down societal barriers. I identify as queer to acknowledge and support the broader spectrum of the LGBTQ community, recognizing that terms like lesbian and queer can overlap, but also bring their own unique meanings and values.
Self-Identification and Community
The identity of queer is fluid and often used as an umbrella term that encompasses various orientations and identities within the LGBTQ spectrum. It is a term that has been reclaimed and revitalized by many within the community as a symbol of resilience and acceptance. The term queer does not rigidly define a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity but rather recognizes the complexity and diversity that exists within the LGBTQ community.
For instance, individuals who are closeted trans lesbians, like the examples mentioned, can simultaneously be identified as both cisgender male and transgender female, depending on who they are speaking to. This complexity is one of the key reasons why the term queer has become so significant: it acknowledges a wide range of experiences and identities, from sexual orientation to gender identity.
One individual who identifies as queer rather than another label, like lesbian, does so for various reasons. It feels like the most authentic and comfortable label for them, expressing their unique blend of identity without forcing a primary orientation or gender identity. Others who have transitions, like myself, also find the term queer to be more inclusive of their past and present experiences.
Conclusion
Ultimately, identifying as queer or lesbian is a deeply personal journey that reflects an individual's unique identity and experiences. Whether someone chooses to embrace the term queer to honor their predecessors or to embrace the broader community, it is important for society to recognize and support all forms of self-identification within the LGBTQ spectrum.